The ONE Thing the Universe Really Wants You to Do

person alone winter woodsYou Have Cancer.

We can agree, I’m betting, that this is one of the top scariest statements any human can hear.

Call friends and family. Your loved one has hours to live.

Also some of the hardest, most traumatic words we never want to deal with.

I haven’t had to face this one–either as a cancer survivor or a family member. Thank God. But Anita Moorjani and her family did.

They gathered. She went into a coma. Death was imminent. And then …

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Anita Moorjani

She came back.

She not only came back from certain death caused by her metastasized cancer: total organ failure followed by a coma, she returned with an extraordinary message. And within days of her return, the tumors and billions of cancer cells in her body were completely gone.

Anita had a near death experience (NDE)*, in which she experienced a number of things common to such events: unconditional love, multi-dimensional awareness, meeting with passed loved ones, and the choice to return.

Eventually she wrote a book about this miracle, Dying to Be Me.

This was the first inspirational book about having cancer and healing that I read on my own journey. I found myself resonating with her revelations, especially her clarity around what her cancer had to offer her.

I had received similar knowing following my diagnosis, but in the surgical trauma and chemo hell that followed, this knowing receded somewhat into the background. Reading her book reminded me that, though the gifts of my cancer journey would continue to unfold, I ultimately knew the message that my body desperately was sending to me:

Please stop hating yourself, never feeling good enough, being so afraid of life! Please change, so we can live. Please love yourself, finally, so that you can be who you came here to be.

Saturday I had the honor and pleasure to participate in a workshop with her in Denver, to understand what she had experienced and how her wisdom might change my life. In case you haven’t heard her speak or read her book, I’d like to share what my takeaways were, because I feel that her message is central to anyone’s emotional, physical, mental healing.

personal growthThe ONE Reason We are Here

Anita asserts that the only work we are here to do is love ourselves. It’s that simple. So simple, in fact, our minds, addicted to complexity and struggle, can’t really take it in at first.

Though she spoke to us for several hours (interspersed with meditation and inspiring music and videos), the unifying message was that we are unconditionally loved, all of us, and that there is no other reason to exist other than to love ourselves, fully, joyfully, and completely.

Yeah, yeah, you might say. Fine, but give me something I can do. Some tricks and techniques I can use.

Those of us who are personal growth junkies want to know about karma, and why we’re here–in terms of a calling, or work we’re supposed to do. How are we supposed to serve? Survive? Be abundant, prosperous, successful, with good relationships and health? I know, myself, that you can use any modality to create complex answers and pathways to achieving the best and fully lived life. Complexity is meaty. Offers lots of chew toys for the brain. Many things to do. And of course, these modalities are all fine.


Could it really be so simple? Could it really be that loving myself–loving oneself–is the only REAL thing I’m here to learn/experience/do?

Butbutbutbut …

The more she spoke, the more I relaxed back into my own knowing that this is why cancer visited my life. Not because I was a bad person who manifested it, but because my entire mind/body/spirit organism had come to this last desperate act to wake me up, to save me. And as I realized that–crazy as it sounds–that cancer was in service to me, I wept. I cracked open with a level of self-love, self-forgiveness and compassion that I had never felt before.

I’m not saying that this is what cancer, or any disease is to anyone else–though I suspect it could be–just that this is my experience. The unwrapping of the gift.

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Now, Anita is not a person who is engaging in the spiritual bypass, or the tyranny of positive thinking. She’s a realist who has experienced the miraculous, and is using her extremely challenging experience of being so ill (for years) to illuminate the human experience.

Loving ourselves is a decision. It’s a practice. And though it’s simple, obviously it isn’t easy.

She spoke about many things, from our attitudes around money and fear to how to relate to our loved ones who are “on the other side.”

Whatever the context, the message was clear. Love yourself. Make decisions from love, not fear. Money decisions, relationship choices, career … all of it. Though we have most of us been trained to choose things out of fear, we can begin, step by step, to live another way. It may not be easy, but really, the concept is terrifically simple.

Be Who You Are, and the Universe Will Rise to Meet You

The other big takeaway for me was the concept that we don’t have to chase after our destinies. Along with loving ourselves, Anita learned that the Divine just wants us to be ourselves. She asserts that if we just focus on being ourselves, or the person that we desire to be, the Universe will bring to us “all the things that are already ours.”

Again, my mind initially says butbutbutbut . . . and, as soon as I just relax and allow myself to entertain the concept, it feels like a relief. And true. And loving.

As many iterations of the Law of Attraction assert, we don’t have to worry about the how. My understanding of what Anita is saying means that if I truly just am me, and move toward more me-ness, the how and the what will be revealed. It certainly worked that way for her.


Please, if you get a chance, take in the wisdom that Anita brings. You don’t have to be ill, or have had the big C knock on your door.

And I’d love to have some discussion about what you think about all these ideas. Connect via email or facebook so we can chat!

with LOVE,

Photo on 2-3-16 at 3.11 PM #3Elia

*A near-death experience (NDE) refers to personal experiences associated with impending death, encompassing multiple possible sensations including detachment from the body, feelings of levitation, total serenity, security, warmth, the experience of absolute dissolution, and the presence of a light. These phenomena are usually reported after an individual has been pronounced clinically dead or has been very close to death. With recent developments in cardiac resuscitation techniques, the number of reported NDEs has increased.1







Virgo In February: Our Opportunity to Heal!

virgo the healerAt the end of December I had my third chemo treatment. The day after I infused, I danced (you read about this in my last post). The day after I danced, I woke up with the deep body knowing that I would not have anymore chemo, and that I would continue my healing and prevention naturally.

This was a profound moment in many ways.

One, because I listened deeply to my body telling me what it needed.

Two, because to speak my deepest truth in this way (going against the grain and all the conventional wisdom) is a big deal for me–actually it’s one of the biggest things I’m working on in this life.

Three to infinity, because to honor one’s own truth, to take action upon it … this is a healing gift in and of itself. Empowering. Self-loving. Inspiring.

On my birthday, I tried to take a walk. It was awful, I was on my knees gagging and sobbing into the snow. I had no energy. I was painfully numb in all my extremities. I was absolutely finished, done, empty. (This was two weeks after 3rd treatment). The following day I consulted and received my first dose of Chinese herbs. The day after that, my body began to transform. Energy, appetite! Chemo effects disappearing! Life returning! Confirmation from the universe that I had made the right choice!

I bring this all up because I want to talk about Virgo. And because I know many of you have been following this cancer journey.

Virgo in February

Right now, Jupiter is retrograde in Virgo. The transiting North Node is in Virgo. The February full moon on the 22nd is in Virgo (3 degrees). Starting with the March 3 new moon (at 18 degrees Pisces) and continuing in September, we are going to have eclipses on the Virgo/Pisces axis.

Jupiter's extravagant atmosphere
Jupiter’s extravagant atmosphere

(I am, by the way, having a Jupiter return. My Jupiter is retro in Virgo natally. When I received my cancer diagnosis, transiting Jupiter was conjunct my natal Jupiter. I had my second surgery just days after the first Virgo cycle eclipse in September. Transiting Jupiter has been conjoined my Pluto and the transiting North Node in Virgo. I have had the deepest, most challenging, most illuminating and empowering episode of healing on all levels in this past year. And the adventure continues.)

For the first half of 2016, and potent in this month, are the energies of Virgo. Virgo is the archetype of the healer, the spiritually independent priestess, the self-enlightening hermit, the wisdom keeper. Virgo is devoted to her Sacred Work. Virgo is empowered to share her Sacred Work for the benefit of all beings.

As Jupiter and the transiting North Node travel through this sign and make conjunctions to each other (January, June), the opportunity for us to devote ourselves to healing and our Sacred Work is emphasized. As in, the cosmos really, really wants us to heal. And as we heal ourselves, we must step up to the healing of the planet. The eclipses on the Virgo/Pisces axis will reveal areas where we choose victimization and martyrdom over empowerment and cosmic co-creation. This process is healing in and of itself.

What is Sacred Work? What if I’m not a Virgo?

Listening to the CosmosFirst off, we all have Virgo somewhere in our chart. Often we will have planets there; my whole generation has Pluto and Uranus in Virgo. But even if your Virgo house is empty of planets, you still have a Virgoean area of sacred work. You still have something to offer the world in terms of service or healing.

Sun sign Virgos have incarnated to intensely work with this energy, also those with Virgo on the Ascendant.

Sacred Work is that aspect of ourselves and our lives that we are supposed to develop for soul growth. The Work might not even look or seem spiritual, particularly. It is an area to which we are naturally drawn, but where we might feel the most unempowered or self-critical (shadow Virgo). Often the awakening to the call of our Work happens in midlife, during the game-changing transits that occur then for all of us. Or they are uncovered during transits to Virgo houses or planets.

Some examples of Sacred Work might be a devotion to gardening and sharing that knowledge or produce (pun intended!). It might be a call to be a healer of some kind: doctor, Reiki master, astrologer, herbalist. Perhaps the Work manifests as a deep desire to protect or enhance the environment: activist, scientist, teacher, urban farmer. Always the Work begins with an awareness of Self and longings. A desire to become conscious of more than just our own needs. A drive to connect, inspire, lead, contribute.

Hints to your Sacred Work are evident in your birth chart. What planets do you have in Virgo? Angles (ASC, DC, Midheaven)? What house does Virgo rule? At the very least you will have a house or two influenced by the energy of Virgo. If you have planets in the 6th house, this brings the energy of Virgo. (Let’s book a session if you want guidance about your Sacred Work!)

Another big indicator is where you find your greatest joy.woman dancing sun

What does this have to do with healing? As we delve into self-healing, we discover the call of our Sacred Work. As we develop our Sacred Work, we automatically contribute to the continued well-being of others and the planet. When we consciously choose to turn our wounds into gifts, and share that with others, we perform our Sacred Service. Which leads to self-healing. And around it goes.

But I thought February was about Aquarius!?

Of course! We’ve got a bounty of Aquarius action this month, as the Sun transits through this sign, and also the February 8 New Moon at 19 degrees Aquarius. Mercury enters this sign of its exaltation on the 14th, and Venus comes along shortly after on the 18th. I like to look at all this Aquarian energy as providing the objectivity, witness consciousness, and out-of-box thinking that we need to really define the areas of healing we want to explore.

With the clear headed energy of the water bearer, we can achieve clarity about the areas in our life that need attention and healing. It’s quite simple for me, for example, because I am immersed in researching and applying alternative healing methods to cancer prevention and survival. Aquarius is helping me to be neutral about this process, to make intellectual connections, and to use technology to benefit my healing research.

The starship Uranus

For you, maybe it’s about diet. Or exercise. Or getting therapy. Or writing that memoir. Don’t be afraid to make some leaps now. Uranus, as the ruler of Aquarius is moving through intuitive Aries–supplying us all with some insights and ahas that come primarily through the body. (Like my body knowing to stop chemo. It wasn’t a brain/mind thing). Now is the time to listen to the whispers, and to take action.

The Aquarius New Moon is a perfect time to take time to sit with/in emptiness, floating in the soft, warm comfort of the void. Letting visions play before your eyes; feeling into your lower chakras (1-3) about where and how your healing and Sacred Work want to be played out.

Neptune inspires from Pisces, and Chiron there also lends insight, turning wounds into opportunities and gifts.

I’m feeling all my gifts today. Gratitude for my amazing body, for healing, for family, friends, and FB animal videos.

I’d love to hear from you about how the Virgo archetype is showing up in your life. Leave a comment, ask a question, or drop me a line!


Photo on 2-3-16 at 3.11 PM #3Elia

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